Let it not show. (Copy)
We want to have children, but without it being obvious.
We want to live longer, but without it being noticeable. We always want to hear "but where did you get your children from? You don't look like you have any" or "but you look much younger, it doesn't show."
It's like there's this "image" of a woman who, upon becoming a mother, loses her most socially prized possession: "the perfect body," the flat stomach, the toned skin... as if becoming a mother wasn't a big enough change already, we moms have to fit into this social requirement where, after creating life inside us and nourishing someone with our entire being for nine months, after all that physical and emotional effort, we add the pressure of having to keep our bodies as if none of that had ever happened...
And what about aging? That dreaded stage where the skin sags, the hair turns gray, physical beauty starts to seem further from what is socially considered beautiful, attractive, desirable... as if it weren't a complete fortune to reach more years, as if that body with its now different skin didn't deserve gratitude, praise, for continuing to age... as if in those new years our way of observing, thinking, and acting in this world didn't change... and it's true that well-lived years bring calmness, wisdom, respect, confidence, and that aging body generally holds a soul with a depth that only the journey of years can give us.
So, it's true that pregnancies change our physique and that the years don't come alone, but it's up to each person how they handle each stage of their life... Becoming a mother also brings the hope of believing in humanity again, of seeing through the eyes of a human being who arrives with a fresh soul, of wanting to create a better world. We have a powerful, strong, admirable body for which we should only feel deep gratitude after giving life.
And about aging, aging can be merely physical for many. It can be completely superficial, and for that, inventions are available. A variety of toxins, some injectables, that claim to solve part of the problem and seem to be very effective. I believe that in the end, everything in life is about choosing between the available options. There is, for example, the option of aging lightly or doing it consciously, honoring that body that keeps us healthy and strong, nourishing our soul which in the end is what can make us feel fulfilled, with eternal youthfulness, eager to live joyfully for every additional year that comes, and hopeful that many more will follow.
